Sunday, October 20, 2013

"It's no wonder with all this wedding non-sense.."

Today I am experiencing a total burn out from the previous few weeks running around.  I am wiped out and have only left my bed twice today - both times to go to the bathroom.  No worries - I'm sure I'll be my usual bouncy self once I've rested a bit.

Friday evening I had the pure joy and honor of accompanying my mom to purchase her mother of the bride outfit.  It was one of those experiences that will bring a smile to my face with each memory of it.  When she tried it on, tears came to my eyes.  She looked stunning.  I can't wait for her to wow for our ceremony.

 Then yesterday she accompanied me as...(drumroll please).... I got my ear pierced.  (Yes, the woman at the jewelry counter admitted that I'm the oldest person whose ears she has ever pierced.)

When I was in high school, my earring got caught in the sleeve of a sweater and ripped my lobe.  I loved my earrings like I loved my lipstick back in that day.  It was quite dis-heartening.  So twenty years later, someone finally had the idea to make strips for folks that have a ripped lobe to enable them to wear earrings in the torn ear, so I had to have my other ear pierced to wear the earrings my sweet mother had purchased for me for the wedding.

Days 12 and 13 of The Love Dare are: "Love lets the other win" and "Love fights fair".  Tommy and I cracked up at the title of Day 12 and thought for sure we'd finally found the topic we'd struggle with most - we are both highly competitive!  However, it wasn't about drive-way basketball games, but rather sometimes to win a disagreement, you have to agree to disagree and move on.  "Love fights fair" means that you don't bring up past arguments, you don't say things you don't mean, you don't get physical.  You don't compromise love to come out ahead.

I have updated our "wedding website" with all of the details of how we met, our first wedding, and what's brought us to wear we are now.  You can view it at: www.weddingwire.com/sivilsandgold .  Be sure to sign the guestbook and RSVP if you'll be attending the ceremony.

That's it for now folks.  I'm going to go get some more rest where I can start all over on the general busyness of life again tomorrow!

Friday, October 18, 2013

Love Cherishes

We are on Day 11 of The Love Dare which means...(drum roll please)...just twenty-nine days until the big day!!

Today's Dare is "Love Cherishes".

Husbands ought also to love their wives as their own bodies.  He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it.  Ephesians 5:28, 29

When we marry, we become one with our spouse.  Pain inflicted on them, is pain inflicted on yourself.  Just as you lovingly nurture and care for your own body, you should nurture and care for your spouse.  Purposely injuring your spouses emotions is the same as self-mutilation.  You are dividing what God has joined together and ultimately fighting against yourself.

Determine to cherish your spouse.  Show them you cherish them with your words and actions.

Thursday, October 17, 2013

I feel like a kid at Christmas!

Each day is bringing with it a new anticipation for our special day.  Tuesday we painted mason jars and inadvertently turned me into King Midas before all was said and done.  Yesterday we went and looked at the grounds of the home of a very special lady where our ceremony will be hosted to "pick a tree".  And this morning another package arrived in the mail that contained some special aspects to our day.  Over the past week, God has given me even more ideas of how to include the kids in the service that we hope will bring a smile to our guest and sweet memories for us all.

Last night Tommy and I read Day 10 of The Love Dare - "Love is Unconditional".  It defined the three types of love:  agape (unconditional), phileo (friendship), and eros (sexual).  While the most important love (agape) is offered without conditions, all three form a very important part in the equation of a happy marriage.

1 Corinthians 13:7 says, "Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

Love is so much more than just a feeling.  It is a lifetime commitment to seek the best for someone else before yourself.  If it is based on conditions, eventually love will fade because as time takes its toil on our human bodies and minds, those conditions will eventually fade as well.

Take time to consider what is the glue that holds your love secure to your spouse?  If it has to do with appearance, intelligence, humor, or charm, it isn't going to make it for the long haul.

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Greet With a Kiss

Now that, I can do!

Day 9 of The Love Dare is "Love Makes Good Impressions".   The focal verse is from 1 Peter 5:14.  It says, "Greet one another with a kiss of love."

Tommy calls me on his lunch break and as he leaves work each day.  When I answer the phone, his greeting is always the same, "Hi, beautiful."  It makes me look forward to his calls.  If instead of such a lovely greeting, I was bombarded with all of the trials of his day, I'd be much less receptive.

The same is true when he walks through the door daily.  I always meet him with a hug and/or a kiss.  (Or on days like yesterday, I stand on the sidewalk in front of the house bouncing up and down like a three year old as he turns into the driveway.)  It's that excitement that makes him ready to come home.  If instead he was greeted with all of the horrible things the kids had put me through during the day, he'd dread coming home.

Greeting's are important.  They are an insight into what is to come.  A cheerful greeting can warm the coldest heart.  Whether you are greeting your spouse, your neighbor, your children, or a stranger on the streets, a friendly greeting goes a long way to convey God's love.

Our celebration of love ceremony is exactly one month from today!!!!  Details are becoming more complete daily.  I can't wait to say "I still do" to my wonderful husband.

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

32 Days 5 Hours 5 Minutes

Most of the details of planning our wedding are moving right along.  We have had SEVERAL bumps in the road but nothing too big for our Almighty God.  We have also made a few adjustments to give our beautiful children more of a role in the celebrations and are so excited about how that is coming along!!  

We are on Day 8 of The Love Dare and our fast.  The Love Dare has highlighted many areas that I need to improve in that I was not aware of prior to beginning this journey.  I'm thankful for God (and Tommy's) patience with me.  I'm a mess!  



Day 8 is titled "Love is not Jealous".  

"Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave.  It burns like blazing fire."  Song of Solomon 8:6

The author points out that there are two forms of jealousy:  1. Legitimate jealousy based on love, 2. Illegitimate jealousy based on envy.  Legitimate jealousy says, "Hey, that is mine.  Back off, bud!"  Illegitimate jealousy, on the other hand, forms out of our own selfish desires. 

This is another area that Tommy and I do not seem to have trouble with.  We both genuinely support and wish for each other's success in all avenues of life.  We are each other's number one fan and biggest cheerleader, motivator, and supporter.  When he wins, I win and vice-versa.    

The countdown continues.  Thanks for being part of the ride!

Monday, October 14, 2013

Love, Love, Love

Day's six and seven of The Love Dare are "Love is not Irritable" and "Love Believes the Best".

Wow, do I ever fall short on loving when it comes to irritability.  Sleep deprivation, hunger, and monthly cycles seem to bring out the worst in me.  I tend to lash out at those to whom I'm closest.  The first couple of days in this study, and I was thinking, "Gee, I'm pretty good at this business of love," but then they pull out the big guns and I realize how much work I have to do.  Proverbs 16:32 says, "Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.  Lord, strengthen me to love better by not letting my feathers get ruffled as easily.

Love always believes the best is easier for me.  I tend to consider all of the things that Tommy does that makes me still smitten after all these years rather than the million and one reasons he irritates the daylights out of me.  Focusing on the positive more than the negative creates a deeper love between us.  All of his annoyances aside, he is the greatest man alive and was made just for me.  Why would I not choose to think about that instead of his limited flaws.  (We won't talk about my many flaws... just glad Tommy chooses to overlook them usually too!)


Saturday, October 12, 2013

FIVE WEEKS!!!!

In five short weeks, we will be getting decked out for the big day!  I am glad to see the craziness of planning such an event come to an end, and at the same time, cannot wait for the day itself!

Last night Tommy and I read day five of The Love Dare.  It was titled "Love is not Rude".  Love does not laugh or make jokes at your spouses expense.  Love doesn't roll its eyes.  Love doesn't respond sarcastically.  Love is not rude.

The Golden Rule found in Luke 6:31 says it best, "Treat others the same way you want them to treat you."  

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My boots which complete my wedding attire (along with a few other purchases) came in yesterday.  It was a fun moment since I had literally been stalking this specific pair of boots since March.  They are even more beautiful than they appear online and fit perfectly.  I wore them around the house on and off all day yesterday in an attempt to break them in properly.  I have a feeling I will spend a lot of time doing that between now and November 16.


Today we are heading to a baby shower to celebrate the impending arrival of our children's pastors first child.  What a blessing babies are!  It's going to be another great day.



Friday, October 11, 2013

Love is Thoughtful

Day four of The Love Dare is about the thoughtfulness of love.  It's getting your spouse a cup of coffee in the morning or fixing his favorite meal for supper.  One of the things that I do yearly for Tommy as act of love and being thoughtful is to stack up on his favorite candy - chocolate covered cherries - during the Christmas season.  As soon as they start putting them on the shelves, I buy a box or two each time I shop until the store empties out of them again.  It's small, but it says, "I love you and thought of you today."  Roses for me from Tommy seem to have the same effect.

How precious to me are your thoughts, God!  How vast is the sum of them!  Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand - when I awake, I am still with you.  Psalm 139:17-18

Yesterday was a fun day.  We had our cake tasting.  Our cake is being prepared by the good folks at Cake Etc. in Brookhaven.  If the actual wedding cake is half as good as the scrumptious treat we had yesterday, I will be beyond pleased!  We taste tested white wedding, white chocolate, champagne, almond, and red velvet.  There were two that we had a hard time choosing between and finally voted with one winning by a small margin.  (Nope, I'm not going to tell you!)  The kids are having a great time helping to plan and especially didn't mind this part of the chore list.  My mom went with us too, making the day even more special!  



Tommy cleaned his plate!
After the tasting, the boys and girls split ways.  The boys went home for a pizza night while we ladies went to the mall and had a make-up consultation.  Estee Lauder is having their yearly special where you get goodies if you spend a certain amount of money.  I racked up on the goodies!  And being breast cancer awareness month, there were delightful hostesses walking through the store with appetizers and drinks.  It added to the specialness of the day.  But now absolutely no more treats for me until the big day!

Come back by tomorrow and I'll share day 5 of The Love Dare and show you some goodies I got in the mail today!!!

36 days to go!!!!!



Thursday, October 10, 2013

40 Day Countdown

Tommy and I began our forty day countdown with a personal, 40 day fast and with the hope of reading through "The Love Dare" (which is also a forty day journey).  We are on day four and are excitedly working towards the end where we meet each other at the altar and say, "We Still Do!"

Day one of The Love Dare was about being patient with one another.

Ephesians 4:2 says, "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love."

Day two of The Love Dare talks about the importance of kindness.  How is it that people tend to be kind to strangers and can so easily treat those to whom they are closest with complete disregard?  The marriage of two believers is meant to most closely mirror the relationship that Jesus has with the church.  What are we showing non-believers when our marriage does not reflect that?  Kindness is intentional.  It is rubbing your husband's feet at the end of a long day or opening the car door as a sign of respect.  It isn't to be treated lightly.

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.  Ephesians 4:32

Day three of The Love Dare is a harder one - "Love is not Selfish".  We all want our own way; it's human nature.  But it is not the nature of love.  Love wants the best for the one to whom it is given.  Or as the writers of this beautiful book put it, "Love is never satisfied except in the welfare of others."  

Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.  Romans 12:10

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves,  Philippians 2:3
The questions Tommy and I asked each other were do our patience, kindness, and selflessness reflect a love that is strong for self or for each other.  We agreed we both love one another fully on each count.  It isn't always easy.  It is a choice to daily prefer another to yourself.

It is our prayer that love is our legacy that will continue through generations to come.  

I hope to share daily as we continue our wedding day countdown.  Come back by!