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Extremely Spoiled and Somewhat Helpless - Oh, and It's a NEW YEAR!

Since my husband's shoulder surgery a week and a half ago, I have been blessed with a lot of insight into both of our personalities and our places in our home. I tend to be all about preparation and details, while Tommy is about the execution of those things. He has made me an extremely spoiled and somewhat helpless woman!! I have as many scars from his surgery as he does... I cut my hands three different times opening toy packages and installing batteries on Christmas Day. I don't like to sound as if though I'm complaining or whining, but deal with me a minute while I do... the past nine days I have felt like a single mom of five kids! I have a whole new appreciation for my husband and all that he contributes in our home to help me in as many ways as he can. He truly has a servant's heart and enjoys helping. He does not like laying around not being able to do much. While this is something I've always known, I don't think I'd realized it in the same light until now. I pray I never take him for granted again. Tommy, thank you for being who you are and for doing all you do! You'll never know how much appreciate you!

On with things....

Last night Tommy and I sat down with the kids to reflect on 2008. Then this morning we turned our focus to 2009. We had a lot of fun remembering some of our favorite moments from the past year and then planning together as a family and seeking God's will for us for 2009.

Here are some highlights from our discussion of 2008:

It was unanimous that our trip to Disney World was the family favorite for the year. Dacey most enjoyed seeing the fireworks show over Cinderella's castle from our table at Ohana's. Jaden was overjoyed to have become a Jedi Knight and fought Darth Vadar. Isaac loved the Finding Nemo live show. Tommy and I agreed Animal Kingdom was the best. He most enjoyed the safari ride while my favorite was seeing the silver-back gorillas so close.

The kids agreed that their favorite movie we saw this year was Bolt. Tommy and I voted on Fireproof. There were also honorable mentions for Beverly Hills Chihuahua.

Every one's favorite memory of the funniest thing that happened in 2008 was when we were at Disney World and I was admiring the detailing of the building hosting the Nemo Show. I was talking about how life like the lizards on the outside of the building appeared when they leaped at me! I screamed as my husband announced to the folks in line behind us that this was the pre-show. They all laughed. I didn't find it as amusing. Hmmmm...

We did a lot in 2008... We had our Christmas in June day where we actually saw an "off season Santa" in Sam's. We went to Build A Bear and had a blast. We spent a few days in Texas over the summer. ISAAC WAS SAVED AND BAPTIZED!! Hurricane Gustav and the tornado that passed through our town was mentioned. We had fun at the AKC DOG DAY in Jackson. The Balloon Races are always a crowd favorite. The kids also mentioned our new Thanksgiving tradition of a non-traditional Thanksgiving meal. This year we let each child choose a favorite food and then I cooked all of those things for our dinner. We had mac-n-cheese, hot dogs, taco burgers, tator-tot casserole, and devilled eggs. For dessert we had cherry pie, cherry pie salad, and pecan pie. We plan to carry this on next year too. And who can forget Mississippi's Blizzard of 2008 in December!?!

Birthday's were especially fun: Dacey waking up to find her American Girl doll on her bed her birthday morning. Isaac's "day out" with just mom and dad to celebrate his birthday. Connor digging into his Mickey Mouse birthday cake. And Jaden's surprise party. Our favorite, of course, was the celebration of Jesus's birthday Christmas morning!!

We've had some sadness in 2008 too. We lost my beloved Golden Retriever, Rhett, as well as Dacey's Golden Retriever, Sunshine. We loved them so much and have missed them more than I can explain. We've had more than enough sickness and accidents. Connor went to the emergency room four times in 2008 with high fevers, bumps and bruises, and most recently with croup. Jaden had bronchitus several times. Isaac has had chest pains that have been diagnosed as a murmur and leak, but Praise God that is something he will out grow. Then Tommy's surgery. I think I said enough about that at the beginning of this blog-novel.

Adding Bella Rose to our family brought me a lot of joy this year. She has become "my" dog and I love her dearly.

On to 2009! Behold He makes all things NEW!!

I don't always go for making resolutions, but I do like taking time to re-evaluate things that are negative in my life and and focusing on how to make them better for the next year. This morning after breakfast we discussed our goals for the New Year. We talked about what scriptures we felt like God was leading each of us to make as our personal verse for this next year. (That is something I've done for the past several years, but this year Tommy and the kids have joined me on it... we even have a family scripture for all of us!) We made a schedule of what are days should be like and how we can use our time best to accomplish all that needs to be done and honor God with our time. We made a new chore list and redistributed chores based on the children's ages.

We did each have some "revolutions" as Dacey calls them. Mine is for our house to stay cleaner. Tommy said he'd just like to stay home more! (AMEN!!) Isaac wants to learn to tie his shoes. Jaden wants more family game nights. And Dacey said she wants us to have more Bible and prayer time as a family and for herself alone.

Lots of scripture was discussed.

My verse for this year is Philippians 4:8 - Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. I tend to think about negatives more than I should. I read too much news. I hate to admit it, but I have been obsessive about the Caylee Anthony case. I need to focus more on the good around me. I think it would be a mood and an attitude lifter and make my light shine a lot brighter.

Tommy's scripture is 2nd Corinthians 5:7 - We walk by faith, not by sight.

Dacey's is from 1 Peter 3:3,4 - Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.

Jaden chose Psalm 119:9 - How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word.

Isaac's scripture is 1 Peter 2:9 - But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.

For our family's scripture we chose 2 Peter 1:5-7 - For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love.

These verses will stand as our individual "mission statements" and our family "mission statement" for the next year.

I hope in 2009 we are able to live a more simple life - a life that is pleasing to God and that is uplifting and encouraging to one another and to people outside of our family as well. I pray that all we do be glorifying to God and a blessing to others.

Comments

  1. Great post! I loved reading about your year. We lost a beloved pet this past year too...very sad. And we also went to Disney World...lots of fun.

    I love your look at the year ahead. May the Lord continue to bless your family in the year ahead.

    Take care my friend!
    Happy New Year!

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  2. I love that you had basically a family meeting about last year and this coming year. That is awesome. I love that you voted on favorite things to post. Great idea. Awesome pictures too!

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  3. Awesome post...thanks for sharing piece of 2008 and your life with us.

    Happy New Year!

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  4. You surely had a full and blessed year! Sounds like God is starting this new year off right with a new understanding of yourself. You have had your hands full at a very busy time of year, but you and the Lord pulled through it. Tell Tommy we hope he continues to heal with each passing day...and I pray you continue to find your inner strength to help lead your family each day. It's times like these I have found I am stronger than I thought! We are truly blessed to have the wonderful husbands we have.

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  5. Great post! YOu definitely had an eventful year.

    Praying your 2009 is filled with lots of blessings!

    Hugs,
    Sherry

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